Monday, August 22, 2011

Answering your questions

In my last post, I asked a few questions about who you are, how you found my blog, and what you would like to read more of or less of here.  I guess I have kind of felt like I am in a blog slump these days.  Does that even make sense?  I want to write (I love to write), but I haven’t been sure of what to write about.  And we’ve had a busy summer, but then I wonder if other people are interested in that or not.  So I really appreciate how so many readers responded and made suggestions.  And thank for all of the nice compliments, too – that was very kind and I guess I needed a little pat on the back to know that people are still interested in reading what I have to write.  So thank you.  It was really interesting to see who has been reading this for a while and see who has just recently started reading my blog.

I figured I’ll read through the comments and answer your questions.  I might need to use a few posts to do it, though.   I’ll start with Journey’s comment.  Journey at Our Journey To You wrote, “I would love to know what books you read or sites you visited either before/during/after applying.” 


I love my subscription to Adoptive Families magazine; if you don’t already get it, I suggest getting a subscription.  They have a lot of good articles every month.  I also liked Dear Birthmother.  Our agency required we read two books and that was one of our choices.  Adopting After Infertility was good, too.  The two books on the bottom of the pile – The Complete Adoption book and Adoption for Dummies – are good when you are just starting out.  I would probably recommend the Dummies book – not the greatest title but it breaks down information for the reader.  I loved reading memoir-style books – I know I read more than what’s even pictured here.  But a couple of my favorites were Trail of Crumbs, From China With Love, China Ghosts, and Two Little Sisters.  We weren’t sure whether we would do international or domestic adoption in the beginning, so I read books about both.

These are some children’s books about adoption that we like:

I Wished For You: An Adoption Story by Marianne Richmond
This one made me get so teary-eyed! It's about a little bear named Barley and how he was adopted. It uses accurate adoption language; it addresses why someone might choose adoption; it brings up how the adoption process is involved...
A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza
This is a book about a little bird who lives alone and wishes for a mother. He meets animals and asks if they could be his mother. Eventually he meets a bear who shows him how they don't have to look alike to feel like a family.
We Belong Together: A Book About Adoption and Families by Todd Parr
I LOVE this book. I love the way it's written and how it could apply to so many different types of families.
Horace by Holly Keller
This is a story about a little cheetah that was adopted by a tiger family. He worries that his adoptive family might not like his spots. He finds out how much they really love him and how happy they are to be a family.
Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis
I love the illustrations in this book - there are so many great details. I love how the book is written, too...

And as far as websites or blogs about adoption that I read when we were starting out (and continue to read now):

One of the first blogs I read about adoption was Kate’s blog:  josiej2011.  I remember following Kate’s story of the adoption of their daughter, Josie.  At one point, I “lost” her blog…not sure how I managed that, but recently Kate commented here and we ‘connected’ again.  It’s great to see how they are all doing.

Production, Not Reproduction is a great blog about open adoption.  She tends to have a lot of links to other great blogs as well.

Karen writes One Good Egg, a blog about adopting from Foster Care.  She and I have “known” each other for quite a while.  I think we found each other on a chatboard years ago, if I remember right!

Brenda is the author of the blog, Forgetting to Remember to Forget.  She went through the same rollercoaster of infertility that we experienced and we supported each other along the way.  She and her husband have started on a journey to adopt as well!

Ella Minnow Pea is written by Rebekah and tells the story of their adoption of their son, Parker.  (She shares her own graphic design work and inspirations, too…it’s a beautiful blog.)

Melba writes Dreams Really Do Come True.  Melba writes about her son, Charlie, and the adoption process.  She also writes about life with a toddler.  I wrote a post about meeting up with Melba and Charlie just a week or two ago.

There are a lot of blogs on my sidebar, too…I recommend checking those out if you haven’t yet…Life According to Leah, When Hello Means Goodbye, Our Life in the Farm, Keeping Up with the Johnstons, Heart Cries, and The Road Less Traveled are just a few….These are blogs that I came upon during the adoption process.

There are also some really wonderful blogs out there written by birthmothers.  You might want to check out:  Birthmomtalks, It’s Just One Hat, and Amstel Life.   

If anyone wants to add more suggestions to the list (of books, websites, or blogs) feel free to leave a comment. I know I’m forgetting some

I’ll answer more of the comments/questions in some  upcoming blog posts.  Thank you again.


Heidi said...

I would definitely suggest reading anything by Jenna Hatfield...her adoption blog is

birthmothertalks said...

Thanks for the blog recommendation!!

Karen said...

It was a chatboard, an infertility/IVF chatboard to be exact. You, B, and I were experiencing the failure of the medical miracle of IVF at around the same time. Then your adoption timeline and my adoption timeline ended up coinciding despite our different routes to our children.

I enjoy reading about your experiences with open adoption. You know our situation with P is a little different, but your story has opened my mind to the concept of open adoption and helped me to view it in a positive light.

Wendy said...

Thanks, Heidi...I think I've seen her blog before but it's definitely been a while. I want to check it out again.

Birthmothertalks - you're welcome :)

Karen - I remember 'meeting' too...I love reading your blog about you and P :) I saw your comment a few posts down, too...I hope we can meet someday, too! That would be great.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your transparency. New to the open adoption community. Our daughter is seven and a half months old. We knew our birth birth mom prior to her pregnancy with our daughter. But adoption has changed our relationship, but communication is improving with passing conversation.
I am looking for friends who are further along in this processs than we are. Feel free to friend me on facebook
Jodi Godlove Harrison