Wednesday, May 9, 2012

With love

I remember how it was hard to handle Mother’s Day while we were dealing with infertility and while we were waiting to adopt.  It was a day that reminded me that what we really wanted in our lives – a child – was still missing. 

It was so hard to watch the hundreds of Mother’s Day commercials that started two weeks prior to the holiday.   It was even harder to see families out and about or at church or to go to a store and be wished a Happy Mother’s Day by a clerk.  It just made me want to crawl into bed and not come out for a few days.

I don’t know what it’s like to be a birthmom. 

I can only imagine that it’s very very difficult on a day like Mother’s Day.

As an adoptive parent, it’s hard when you want to say the right thing and you don’t know exactly what that right thing is. How do you say the right words to someone who has given you so much?

I want Zoe’s other mother, her birthmom, to know how important she is to us.  She’s the reason that I’m a mom right now. Her decisions and her choices helped us become parents.  Zoe has two moms who love her so much.  That’s such an amazing thing.  We see so many things in Zoe that remind us of Z.  She looks like Z – her nose and her mouth remind me of Z’s.  Her birthmom is really sweet, smart, and funny, and I think Zoe gets that from her, too. 

I hope that she knows that we think about her so often.  We love Zoe’s birthmom, and we’re so glad that we’re family.