Wednesday, May 9, 2012

With love

I remember how it was hard to handle Mother’s Day while we were dealing with infertility and while we were waiting to adopt.  It was a day that reminded me that what we really wanted in our lives – a child – was still missing. 

It was so hard to watch the hundreds of Mother’s Day commercials that started two weeks prior to the holiday.   It was even harder to see families out and about or at church or to go to a store and be wished a Happy Mother’s Day by a clerk.  It just made me want to crawl into bed and not come out for a few days.

I don’t know what it’s like to be a birthmom. 

I can only imagine that it’s very very difficult on a day like Mother’s Day.

As an adoptive parent, it’s hard when you want to say the right thing and you don’t know exactly what that right thing is. How do you say the right words to someone who has given you so much?

I want Zoe’s other mother, her birthmom, to know how important she is to us.  She’s the reason that I’m a mom right now. Her decisions and her choices helped us become parents.  Zoe has two moms who love her so much.  That’s such an amazing thing.  We see so many things in Zoe that remind us of Z.  She looks like Z – her nose and her mouth remind me of Z’s.  Her birthmom is really sweet, smart, and funny, and I think Zoe gets that from her, too. 

I hope that she knows that we think about her so often.  We love Zoe’s birthmom, and we’re so glad that we’re family.

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8 comments:

birthmothertalks said...

Love your posts on Mother's day.

happymomof2 said...

:)

All in His Perfect Timing said...

I also wonder the right things to say ... But there aren't enough words to thank her for the gift she gave us. Do you send Z anything on Mothers Day?

Wendy said...

Thank you, birthmothertalks.

All in His Perfect Timing - yes, but I don't know if she received what we sent yet, so I'd rather not mention it just yet...

Michelle said...

Wonderful post - and a wonderful gift indeed.

Hpyme : ) said...

Wendy, two nights ago I found your pin on pinterest and repinned. Then I started following your board. I am the "God" mommy in the equation - what I call 1st mom bc God chose me to give her to my other family. Call them extended family, other family, family - that's what they are now. I can't read to watch you & Zoe & check out the other blog from the other side point of view too! Is there a way for me to email you? I wanted to get a mx to you on pinterest... You are a SUPER mom and our adopted mom has had feelings just like yours regarding this blog. Thank you thank you thank you! So nice to "meet" you. Tracy : )

Wendy said...

Thank you, Michelle.

Hpyme - Thank you for the comment. Sure, you can email me at stevewendyadopt@comcast.net. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Pamela said...

I also am an adoptive mother so I can really relate to this post. My daughter is now the light of my life. I have received a lot of information about being an adoptive mother from http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-cpa. I hope this is helpful!