Saturday, July 12, 2008

I'm having a hard time this weekend. I'm just struggling with my feelings about why this won't work for us.

8 comments:

Suzanne said...

Hi Wendy,
I know it's hard and I know that whatever comments or words of wisdom I offer, it won't take away the hurt. But, you have to keep your faith. You still have options - whether it's another IVF cycle or adoption. If you still have the will, you still have a way. It may not seem possible right now but give it a few weeks or even a few months and you'll find your strength again. Please don't give up. I know you will be an awesome mother and however you obtain your child, he/she will be the luckiest kid!

Wendy said...

Thank you, Suzanne. What a nice thing for you to say. I know we have options. I do. It's just been an overwhelming couple of weeks - our neg. test, the followup with the doctor, three friends announcing their pregnancies, getting a "relax and it will happen" letter in the mail, etc. It's been hard.

hopefaithlove said...

Hamg in there, praying for you. Those pregnacy announcements are hard.

Jen said...

(((big hugs)))
It's hard when you just start to feel OK and then you get stuff like that from people who don't understand.

Hang in there.

Lost in Space said...

Huge hugs, Wendy. Oh how I wish we lived closer, my friend. You have had so much to deal with the past couple weeks and it so normal to feel overwhelmed. I ask myself the same question and wish I had an answer for us both. It hurts and it sucks. I'm right beside you through all this. (hugs)

Karen said...

Wendy, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time right now. You've had a lot to deal with these past couple of weeks and it's understandable that you're struggling. I've been pretty much in the same place and I know how much it hurts. No words will take that hurt away because, after the words, you're still left in the same place with the same narrowed options and the same fears about it not ever working.

I just want you to know that no matter what happens it is possible to come out on the other side. I'm not on the other side yet but I'm closer to it than I was in April after my last failed IVF. In April, I remember thinking that the hurt would never, could never lessen, but it has eased a bit. That's not to say that pregnancy announcements don't still sting like a motherf-, but it's more an ache than stabbing pain.

I wish I could help make it all better for you. Please know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you well. ((Hugs))

Just Me. said...

I don't have any words. I have felt that same way each time I have failed at becoming a mum. I cry and cry and sometimes, I feel defeated. *hugs*

Hope2morrow said...

Me too, girl! It's completely understandable. Allow yourself some time to grieve. We can be down in the dumps together. We haven't been defeated; we just need some time to regroup and move forward.

Thinking of you!